If you're 30+, single and looking for a suitable match, try some changes in your thoughts rather than only changing your matrimonial membership type to Premium! 😉
It is relatively easy to understand the reply "horoscopes don't match" (the other party also sees how well do they match or don't), but the reply "not a strong or suitable match" is wide open for multiple interpretations. I understand that is the case when your personal preferences do not match. Practically it only means, you don't want to proceed with the proposal or interest received. Here are some comments on this topic.
What are your 'preferences' for finding the right match for you? Looks (pleasing personality, good physique, health conditions - not even slight deviation is acceptable, no matter how insignificant it may be)? Fat Income (stable job / business, ever increasing profit/salary)? Education (PG desired)? Nuclear family? Good at nature (that means the guy should be generous at heart & essentially should say yes to everything you say)? Same city as yours (e.g. Pune, Mumbai, that also 'only if' you're working there & want to pursue your career, otherwise abroad is preferred, mainly because of income in dollars or the recent fad of world travel imposed by either advertisements by travel companies or pictures posted by your friends on social media, as if all the time the only thing the couple is going to do is travel)? A spacious flat at Prime Location (where facilities should not be anything less than a five star hotel)? The guy must take care of parents-in-law? The couple should look like "a matching pair" in public appearences? and so on... (there are many more, but most common ones are covered I think. Community preferences, Food preferences, I don't want to comment, I value individual's preferences)
Given everything, what the girl is going to do then? (Is that a totally irrational thought?) Some girls don't want any restrictions / interventions in their expenditures, so don't even want to disclose their income to the partner.
All these things are silently covered in the short response "well-settled", when the girls are asked about their expectations!
Another major thing I realized is that girls have the fear of "losing everything" after marriage, losing freedom, losing career etc. (They don't want to pay attention to gains, and anyway that's just the fear factor) as if they're going to be thrown into boiling water. Comen on, you don't feel exactly like 'at home' even when you're staying at your favorite & close-relatives! How can you then expect nothing will change when you stay at your extended family place!!
If you think peacefully, each of the preferences mentioned above, can be counter-argued (How so, are the traditional discussions I won't add here. e.g. are you so sure circumstances won't change?)
These are just my observations & personal experience! And, I am not saying anything mentioned here is right or wrong! I believe, it's up to every individual (or couple & their mutual understanding) how to deal with these things! See if re-prioritization helps! Due diligence is recommended though. All the best for your partner search!
Dedicated to all my "not so strong/suitable match" and "forever pending" responses! 😊
It is relatively easy to understand the reply "horoscopes don't match" (the other party also sees how well do they match or don't), but the reply "not a strong or suitable match" is wide open for multiple interpretations. I understand that is the case when your personal preferences do not match. Practically it only means, you don't want to proceed with the proposal or interest received. Here are some comments on this topic.
What are your 'preferences' for finding the right match for you? Looks (pleasing personality, good physique, health conditions - not even slight deviation is acceptable, no matter how insignificant it may be)? Fat Income (stable job / business, ever increasing profit/salary)? Education (PG desired)? Nuclear family? Good at nature (that means the guy should be generous at heart & essentially should say yes to everything you say)? Same city as yours (e.g. Pune, Mumbai, that also 'only if' you're working there & want to pursue your career, otherwise abroad is preferred, mainly because of income in dollars or the recent fad of world travel imposed by either advertisements by travel companies or pictures posted by your friends on social media, as if all the time the only thing the couple is going to do is travel)? A spacious flat at Prime Location (where facilities should not be anything less than a five star hotel)? The guy must take care of parents-in-law? The couple should look like "a matching pair" in public appearences? and so on... (there are many more, but most common ones are covered I think. Community preferences, Food preferences, I don't want to comment, I value individual's preferences)
Given everything, what the girl is going to do then? (Is that a totally irrational thought?) Some girls don't want any restrictions / interventions in their expenditures, so don't even want to disclose their income to the partner.
All these things are silently covered in the short response "well-settled", when the girls are asked about their expectations!
Another major thing I realized is that girls have the fear of "losing everything" after marriage, losing freedom, losing career etc. (They don't want to pay attention to gains, and anyway that's just the fear factor) as if they're going to be thrown into boiling water. Comen on, you don't feel exactly like 'at home' even when you're staying at your favorite & close-relatives! How can you then expect nothing will change when you stay at your extended family place!!
If you think peacefully, each of the preferences mentioned above, can be counter-argued (How so, are the traditional discussions I won't add here. e.g. are you so sure circumstances won't change?)
These are just my observations & personal experience! And, I am not saying anything mentioned here is right or wrong! I believe, it's up to every individual (or couple & their mutual understanding) how to deal with these things! See if re-prioritization helps! Due diligence is recommended though. All the best for your partner search!
Dedicated to all my "not so strong/suitable match" and "forever pending" responses! 😊
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